When I was growing up… my mom was- well- amazing! I still don’t know how that woman did everything she did. My mom worked 40+ hours (in a high stress job), maintained a pretty much spotless home, cooked dinner at home almost every night (and always ready before 7), kept up with the laundry, spent more than adequate time with me, spent time crafting and DIY-ing (the woman ALWAYS had a project going on), was an avid reader, kept alive multiple houseplants and outdoor flower beds, kept alive multiple animals… AND maintained her sanity while doing so. I often find myself complaining that I dont have enough time to do “insert random chore” or that I’m so exhausted that I MUST get take out… When I remember all my mother did- I really need to slap myself silly and get a grip on reality. What was in my mother is also inside of me… I just need to figure out how to harness it and make it work.
So I begin my journey. I have never really had a STRONG desire to stay home. Of course it would be nice not to have to work… but I would most likely either wither away from being WAY too lazy- or fill my day with “volunteer” opportunities that are pretty much just jobs… that I don’t get paid for. Nothing would get done for lack of structure… Its just not me (at least, at this point in my life… things are always subject to change). But I DO have a desire to maintain a home, hobbies and level of sanity just like most housewives do. So how do I do that AND work 40+ hours a week… I dont know. Yeah, you thought I had the answer- but I dont. But its worth exploring.
Where does this journey begin. For me it begins with scheduling. I am a list maker… I love a list… I love being able to lay out an agenda and mark through things as I finish. I LOVE being able to look days into the future and know exactly what I will be doing. And even more, I love being able to get a head start on those things if I have the opportunity. So I made a cleaning schedule. I have seen many of these on pinterest… Most of them just one schedule that works for every month. I decided, however, to make mine month to month. That way I can tailor it to what I have going on that month and work out what nights work best for each chore. For instance, in June I was cleaning both bathrooms on Monday. That was OK… but not ideal. Monday’s are a bit wierd for me. I dont like doing anything too heavy… maybe its because its the “case of the Monday’s” or maybe because Im always just a bit depressed that the weekend is over… who knows… So I changed my July schedule to clean the bathrooms on Tuesday. I also noticed that I had scheduled certain projects to do every week that only really needed to be done once a month- or everyother week… So I was able to make that modification.
I was so proud of myself… I stuck to my schedule the ENTIRE month of June… not missing anything. Sure there were somethings I did a day early or a day late because of scheduling conflicts… Or somethings that I just didn’t do because they didn’t need to be done. But other than that- EVERYTHING on that calendar… got taken care of!!!
I know I know- You’re thinking… “well Danielle, its a new house and after the newness wears off you wont want to do that anymore”. Ok- so in reality I’m such a slob that maintaining my home only gets done when something is “new and fun”. SHUT UP! (sorry- that was very rude of me!) The whole purpose of this is to establish a routine of discipline… of course I wont WANT to do it anymore… I don’t WANT to do it now… but I WANT the results. So there! You’re also thinking “Oh Danielle, you don’t have any kids, sure you can do it now… just wait until you have children.” Again… the purpose is to establish a routine… so when we DO have children, we aren’t starting from scratch. (and that excuse drives me nuts!) Caution: Rant ahead ——> Just because you aren’t able to maintain your home or live up to your own expectations please do not throw those excuses at me and tell me I CANT because you CANT. <— Rant Over. I’m not saying my home will be a spotless haven of homemade treasures at all times. I’m just saying- don’t doubt my abilities. Encourage me- or move on. (why do women do that anyway… shouldn’t we be uplifting instead of tearing down each other?) Lets work together on this.
Now, if you are at a place in your life where every thing is in utter chaos and you just CANNOT seem to get it together… please- these posts are not meant to make you feel bad. We all have those moments in our life. You have to prioritize and sometimes- homemaking is just not a priority. I also understand that there exists those people who are perfectly comfortable in dissarray… good for you! I even slightly envy you. I seriously get anxiety when my home is not in some sort of order… I dont like feeling that way over something that seems so trivial- but I’ve always been that way. So for me- mastering this is imperative.
So, they say it takes 6 times to make a good solid habit… not sure if in this instance that means 6 days, 6 weeks or 6 months. But Im going to go with 6 weeks on this one. So that means that by July 15th, abiding by the cleaning schedule should be second nature. I will update you when we get to that point.
SO… Im dying to know. I know some stay at home moms read my blog… some young single chicks read it… and a few working women read as well… Do you have a schedule you stick to for keeping your home clean? Do you just wing it? What works for you?
Thanks and have a Super Sweet day!